How did you explain this to them and try to reassure them? If your son’s father doesn’t want to be involved, there is nothing you can do to persuade him to do so. It takes equal parts mother and father to make a baby, and it takes EQUAL parts to raise one. Sherisha, I do not have the right to stop them seeing their dad. Get Legal Help with Your Questions About Fathers' Rights and Abortion He did ask questions about why his dad didn't come anymore. My children are now 15 and 13 and don't want to know him as they remember him not turning up and the unfair birthday cards etc but i have asked them to think about what they really want before legal proceedings occur if it gets that far. so eventually my oldest two got to see their dad again on a regular weekly basis until he didn't bother again and that was the last time we saw of him. But I do beleive that no father is better than a damaging father, and the relationship my son had with his father was clearly becoming damaged, as evidenced by his behaviour. I can relate to so many of these stories, my son is only 2 and has had no interaction with his father that he will remember, I dread the day when he start asking questions. She has male influences, friends, uncles, grandfather etc. He has the right to see the child and legally can persue this. I wish it was sometimes! Not him. I just hate the idea of him taking her away anywhere, he also has another child and when he looked after him he would just leave him with anyone even neighbours while he went out or to go to work. I don't know how I'll handle it in the future, but her quality of life isnt any worse for him not being involved. But more importantly, the child also has the right to see dad if he/she wants to. Paternity is the legal recognition that a man is a child's father. My son's father refused any contact from the moment I was pregnant. I have 21 days to reply to this ultimatum but my appointment isn't for another weeks time with a solicitor and i am worried sick as to what will happen for my childrens sake, can anyone else relate to my problem, I'm so glad this question has been asked! The night before we were supposed to meet he text saying he couldn't do it, by the next day he had up and moved to England with his mother and I have never seen or heard from him since! But soon realised it was him that didn't make the effort. i have been split from x husband now for 11 years and in that time he has only bothered with our 2 children a handful of times. Paternity. My daughter is almost 7 and he has never tried to make contact or bothered to see her nor have his family, despite him moving across the road from me when she was born, i would see him around and would try to talk to him but he would always turn away. Silly me believed that! Team Netmums. My daughter's father hasn't been involved from day 1, he's seen her twice, last being July 2011 (she's 20 months old now). I felt very sad about the situation for a long time, howveer, I came to realise that it is completely out of my control, and its up to me to be the best parent I can be - thats all any of us can do. My kids have a fab grandad and friends dads as good role models which is great. So apart from having them one day each week he has no involvement in their everyday life. Or at the very least our children to have to loving parents but in reality some dads only want things that are a benefit to them x, https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/being-mum-794/single-parents-45/817071-what-do-when-your-childs-dad-doesnt-want-involved.html#post8218644, Pregnant and the father does not want to be involved. What's your financial situation? As single mum i cant afford to turn down that kind of money, and i would like her to know who her dad is. 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